Reblog if you’d watch a show or movie with an asexual protagonist
They’d have to be a good character though, not the almost (and actual) inhuman types we currently get who are suggested to be asexual - Sheldon Cooper, The Doctor, etc, nor the sort of puritan that some asexuals claim to be (who’d be celibate if they weren’t asexual out of “morals”).
So, snobby genius teetotal vegan who can’t love anyone or anything, not even a pet? Forget it. Asexual who finds people attractive but doesn’t date, or who dates but doesn’t have sex; asexual who admits to masturbating; asexual who codes as “normal/default” aside from being asexual; asexual claiming that label for themselves. Characters like those I would watch.
"Anything short of eating pussy is simply being besties. And that’s all well and good, but girls, you gotta go down." Wow, defining what real lesbian sex is, how progressive of you.
"But why does sex matter? That one’s easy: because it’s the difference between friends and lovers." Erasing asexual and queerplatonic relationships of all kinds, subscribing to the relationship hierarchy of lovers over "just friends".
Fuck this article.
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Hey! I have a suggestion for a fictional asexual— or at least, someone who I always looked to as an asexual hero of mine. Bilbo Baggins! I’m not sure if all fans agree with me, but I’m sure many fellow asexuals will.
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Thank you!! :D -Silver & Jun
I’d never thought about it before but it certainly isn’t contradicted by canon, so why not :D
I watched the Huffpost Live feature on asexuality.
Overall it was really great—everyone who was on the program interacted well with the very respectful and curious host as they discussed “love without sex”—which really should have been called “asexual relationships” (because they DO sometimes…
Trust and support
Honesty and accountability - communicating openly and truthfully, admitting mistakes or being wrong, acknowledging past use of violence, and accepting responsibility for one’s self.
Economic partnership - in marriage or cohabitation, making financial decisions together, and making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements.
Negotiation and fairness
Key factors of healthy relationship: http://www.bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a115.htm
Sex isn’t mentioned once, which as an asexual, makes me very happy. Sex has nothing to do with communication or accountability, and nothing really to do with developing a relationship as anyone who has had a one night stand will attest. Respect, trust, and communication, however, are essential components to ANY relationship.
Below the cut is a very negative piece on Belle and Rumbelle.
I’m tagging this because I want a response. Deep down I want someone to prove me wrong, I want to believe in Rumbelle again. Though I doubt it’s possible at this point… but I still hope.
If you feel you won’t be able to reply to this with something other than “Fuck you” please scroll past this.
If you click on ‘read more’ you acknowledge the risk that your mood can be ruined.
Enter at your own peril.
Here’s my response, and it’s polite.
The parallel doesn’t add up. Asking your loved one to let you in, to not be dishonest and deceptive with you does not equate to pressuring a loved one for sex. You can have a healthy, functioning, and fulfilling relationship without sex. But you CANNOT have a healthy, functioning, and fulfilling relationship without honesty and communication. That goes for EVERY relationship—for friendships, for romantic love, and for family relationships as well.
Rumplestiltskin, as much as he loved Belle, was not giving her that. Frankly, Rumplestiltskin has had a bad habit of behaving this way in other relationships, such as his relationship with his son. Saying that she was pressuring him to ‘bare his soul’ and that that equates to abuse is highly unfair to Belle as a character. Belle was asking him for simple honesty and communication—which is acknowledged, when Charming advised Rumple.
And let’s go back to Rumple here. Painting him as the victim does absolutely no favors to him. Rumplestiltskin has done some evil, horrible, and despicable things in his life, for the sake of gaining power. His addiction to power is slowly destroying him on the inside. It is NOT abusive to insist that a drug addict drop his habit. It is NOT abusive to say that your alcoholic partner MUST STOP DRINKING. Belle laying down the law with Rumple—giving him a chance to mend his ways, but leaving when he didn’t—is tough love, not abuse.
I feel like you’re projecting things onto Rumple and Belle that simply don’t exist and ignoring other parts of what make them such crucial and compelling characters.
You can have a healthy, functioning, and fulfilling relationship without sex. But you CANNOT have a healthy, functioning, and fulfilling relationship without honesty and communication. That goes for EVERY relationship—for friendships, for romantic love, and for family relationships as well.
Thank you for this. This is my thought exactly - especially as I identity as on the asexual spectrum. No one has the right to my body, but anybody I’m in any sort of relationship with has the right to expect honest communication and the sharing of thoughts and feelings, or what’s the point?
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This has never come up, to my knowledge, but if they’d dislike me for being gay then fuck them. Metaphorically, obviously :P Homophobes are probably also ace-phobic too. Straight monogamy or nothing!
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YUP. Hello and welcome to Social Justice Tumblr. I shudder to think that these people actually have lives and friends and families outside of tumblr who…
I just don’t know what you expect us to do, critics. When we’re isolated and alone, you use our rarity against us. When we find strength in numbers, you dismiss us as a fad. Yes, this, exactly. I think what they want is everyone to be having exactly the same sort of heterosexual relationship they have and to fit in their narrow little boxes regarding gender, sexuality, and identity. I really didn’t need this today. But at least there are a lot of positive responses calling the original poster out.
Asexual Relationships: My new article published in Good Vibrations.
I discuss asexual relationships of many types, briefly, for a sex-positive audience. Mentioned are aromantic relationships, asexual/asexual relationships, and mixed-sexuality relationships.
Please note that Good Vibes is a sex-positive magazine and tends to have very explicit articles and images in the sidebar, so if sexual language, pictures of sex toys, or sexual imagery would be inappropriate for your screen wherever you are or would be objectionable to you in general, please don’t click.